Love Doctor

I've been thinking about this article for awhile. You would think I would have no problem writing it now. But I was inspired by others and recent events to talk about friends. There is a special kind of love we reserve only for friends.

1friend 'frend noun
Etymology: Middle English frend, from Old English frEond; akin to Old High German friunt friend, Old English frEon to love, frEo free
Date: before 12th century
1 one attached to another by affection or esteem

I don't know how I could go through life without my friends. They are my support when times are bad and they are the people I tell my good news to. My best friend and I have gotten to the point where at times we can read each others' minds. We have a nickname for ourselves because we just understand each other. Our other friends just roll their eyes, but I don't know how many times she's said just the right thing and makes me feel better.

Then you have those friends that don't understand you as well, but still know when something is wrong and open their arms to give you a hug. These friends are just as vital, they know you well enough that you can tell your secrets to them without feeling stupid. They're the ones you hang out with on a Friday night.

This next group fits in both of those categories but not many people understand them. I'm talking about your online friends. We have a special bond. We were brought together through one thing and now we have lifelong friendships. I also have a best friend online, it's my sister, I can tell her anything and I mean anything. We've only met once but I've known her for almost 2 years and I feel closer to her than a lot of my real life friends. How can anyone argue a friendship in which you share things with others, when times are bad or good you call each other, you instant message each other, you send a card? Is that not what you do with your friends in real life??

Now since I am the love doctor I couldn't finish this article without mentioning how these friendships can turn into something more. At times you meet that person and you get to know them, you might know them for years before things start to change. They look at you and you see something different. Suddenly hearing their voice brings a huge smile to your face, getting an email is the highlight of your day. I think this is the best relationship. There is none of that awkward first date getting to know each other because you've already done that. You know some of their idiosyncrasies. It's just comfortable.

No matter what kind of friendship remember to tell them what they mean to you. You never know when will be the last time you talk to them. Everyone is precious and we are lucky to know each other.

Amanda Lupin